Updated: Feb 20
Maybe you can relate. For the longest time, I walked around and felt like I was not good enough.
Perhaps it was because I was the youngest child and both my brothers excelled in school and I was an average student at best.
My teachers, at all my school conferences said the exact same thing. “He is such a great kid, always smiling, he just needs to do better studying.”
That left me feeling like I wasn’t good enough.
Perhaps it was when I played sports as a kid, that my friends were better and the coaches would always want them to play, and never got really excited about me playing.
I remember clearly, as if it was just yesterday, all of my friends were put on the same team. We knew the coaches personally and they put everyone together.
Guess who they didn’t pick? Me.
Guess how I felt about myself? Like I was not good enough.
Now here is the interesting thing about these limiting beliefs. Did I choose personally to believe that I was not good enough? In other words, I wasn’t sitting around one day and said to myself I am not good enough.
So where did the beliefs come from? Well here is a secret that if you understand this, can be life changing. Those beliefs, in my case feeling like I was not good enough, came from other peoples beliefs, NOT MINE.
In the two examples above, my teachers instilled in me, by the words THEY SAID, that I wasn’t good enough at my current level of knowledge and understanding.
The coaches actually told my parents, who then told me, they didn’t have any more spots and there were others that “were better than me.”
Playing Little League Ball in my terrycloth sweatpants
Nobody really teaches us when we are younger, that the words that others tell us, the beliefs others share with us, are not true at all. So what do we do, unknowingly we ACCEPT IT TO BE TRUE, when it is COMPLETELY FALSE.
Here is what happens. I accepted what others said about me to be true and for the next 30 years it completely controlled my life.
How? When I wanted to start my own business, I felt like I wasn’t good enough, and didn’t do it. I came up with every reason I wouldn’t succeed.
When I wanted to get into a relationship with someone I was really attracted to and liked, I didn’t do it. Why? Because I let someone else’s opinion act as my truth.
This is huge! Mostly everyone walks around thinking they are good enough and the only reason why is someone else, shared their belief, and WE ACCEPTED IT AS THE TRUTH. IT WAS FALSE!!!
I spent 30 plus years of my life allowing others beliefs to control how I responded and reacted to life. I didn’t do many of the things I wanted to, because of these beliefs. Amazingly, all of those beliefs were NOT MINE! They were someone else’s.
So, here is the good news for you. If you are walking around struggling and feeling like you aren’t good enough, if you feel your self-esteem and confidence is really low, we just have to analyze these beliefs, so you can breakthrough and be free.
If you identify the beliefs and the initial installers of those beliefs. Then really look at them and see that while they said their belief, it wasn’t actually true at all.
The good news is you can finally do, be and have all the things you really want and no longer be victim of these BELIEFS that were INSTALLED by OTHERS when we were little.
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